What is a personality?

September 17, 2021 | By pkelley | Filed in: Theory Of Pat.

What is a personality?

What affects emotions, reactions and behaviors which determine individual personality traits?

Is a personality trait the face we present to others? Is the face the same to others?

Is there such a thing as “a” personality for one individual?

Like Snowflakes, No Two Personalities are Alike

A few of the billions of combinations of things that can alter or affect personality:

  • Who you are and who you interact with
  • What level of control you have
  • Your age
  • Mood
  • Circumstance
  • Way of Life
  • Interests
  • Support structure or lack thereof
  • Social status both you and who you interact with
  • Ideology: Spiritual or faith or lack thereof
  • Senses 5 senses plus
  • Education
  • Political lean or beliefs
  • Communication style
  • Physical condition self, environment

What is my personality right now?

Personality on Demand

New connection form your brain with every new memory.
Each person has unique DNA, genetics, experiences, education, sensations and so on. Each encounter builds a combination of connections within the brain all of which work together to form a memory.

Memories form stereotypes or cluster of brain cell connections stored probably somewhere in the “Good to Know Cluster” in order to concoct a personality on demand for future similar encounters.

Personalities are as unique snowflakes, fingerprints, or strands of DNA

What you or others perceive as your personality can depend upon with whom or what a person interacts.

Imagine interactions between:

  • Child – Teacher
  • Child – child
  • Nurse – Patient
  • Doctor – Nurse
  • Mother – Father
  • Sister – Brother
  • Owner – dog named PookyPoo

There is no end to possible combinations of identity traits one can display because there is no limit to the potential daily interactions whether between animal, vegetable or mineral.

Personality May Depend Upon Level of Control

The amount of control a person holds in any situation affects personality.

  • Advisory Capacity Team Mate
  • Occasional Authority Lead Worker
  • Medium Control Supervisor
  • High Control Administrator
  • Low Control Peon
  • No Control Minors
  • Total Control King, Dictator

Do you act differently when you are in charge as opposed to having no control whatsoever over a situation?

Life Stage

Age plays a major role in personality development.

  • Infant 0-18 mo
  • Early Childhood 2-3
  • Preschool 3-5
  • School Age 6-11
  • Adolescent 12-18
  • Young Adult 19-40
  • Middle Adulthood 40-65
  • Maturity 65-150

How has your personality changed with age?

Mood Emotion

Emotion is how we communicate with ourselves. The brain is all about emotion.
Imagine your personality traits while experiencing any number of moods:

Happy, Curious, Playful, Melancholy, Cheerful, Good, Angry, Threatened, Gloomy, Calm, Hopeful, Lonely, Frustrated,Pleasure, Reflective, Emotional, Inadequate, Anxious, Sad, Pain, Frightened, Tense, Whimsical, Romantic, Grumpy

Did the colors or sizes of the mood words have an emotional effect?


Where you are physically, how circumstance affect a personality.

  • School,
  • Camping,
  • Theater,
  • A Play,
  • Win the Lottery,
  • In-Laws visit
  • Prison or Jail
  • Restaurant – Upper class
  • Restaurant – Fast Food
  • Church
  • Mosque
  • Synagogue
  • Emergency
  • Crisis
  • Courtroom
  • Family
  • Hard Times
  • At Work
  • Shopping
  • Competition
  • Contest

Way of Life

Life Style

As with circumstance, where you stand in life or your life style affects your personality.
What customs and traditions have you experienced throughout life.

  • Moral Code
  • Customs,
  • Discipline,
  • Ideology,
  • Tradition,
  • Folklore,
  • Ethics,
  • Lifestyle,
  • Superstition
  • Goals
  • Clothing Style
  • Ceremonies,
  • Foods
  • Ethnicity,
  • Values,
  • Taboos,
  • Taste

Support structure or lack thereof

How could a support structure possibly affect ones personality? Shall we count the ways:

  • Needing Aid
  • Suggestions
  • Employer
  • Counselor
  • Financial
  • Advice
  • Government
  • Club
  • Physical
  • Emotional
  • Love
  • Stress
  • Family
  • Trust
  • Stress
  • Friends
  • Self-Esteem
  • Caring

Social Status

Social status for you and with whom you interact plays a significant role in personality development.
Important connections or situations might include

  • Social status
  • Married
  • Clothing
  • Employed
  • Homeless
  • Divorced
  • Powerful
  • Retired
  • Beauty
  • Rights
  • Wealth
  • Caste
  • Duties
  • Competence
  • Professional
  • Credentials
  • Dependency
  • Unemployed
  • Survival
  • Ethnicity
  • Single
  • Prestigious
  • Shelter
  • Powerless
  • Class

Ideology: Spiritual or faith or lack thereof

How your beliefs and family structure can affect personality. How does faith determine personality?

  • Christian
  • Taoism
  • Janism
  • Atheist
  • Agnostic
  • Secular
  • Humanist
  • Confucianism
  • Buddhism
  • Siknism
  • Shinto
  • Pentacostalism
  • Baha’i
  • Muslim
  • Jewdaisn
  • Zoastrianism
  • Spiritual
  • New Age
  • Hindu
  • Mormonism
  • Amish
  • Catholic

Senses 5 senses plus

Could you imagine how your personality might be different based upon your senses?

  • Itch
  • Smell
  • Hearing
  • Companionship
  • Thirst
  • Touch
  • Friendship
  • Sight
  • Hunger
  • Feel
  • Time
  • Body Awareness
  • Taste
  • Mental Health
  • Hormonal
  • Balance
  • Scent


Education can affect personality

  • High School
  • Boarding School
  • Apprenticeship
  • College
  • University
  • On the Job Training
  • Home School
  • Elementary
  • Religious School
  • Life Lessons
  • Private School
  • Masters
  • Bachelors
  • Illiterate
  • GED
  • Technical School
  • AA Degree
  • Self-Taught


What interests you can alter your personality. Consider how you may behave when you are with others:

  • Fishing,
  • Collecting,
  • Clubbing,
  • Nature Walks
  • Art
  • Planner
  • Hunting
  • Socializing
  • Cooking
  • Inventing
  • Caring for Pets
  • Reading
  • Listening to Music
  • Partaking in Sports
  • Photography
  • Camping
  • Volunteering
  • Blogging

Political lean or beliefs

Where you fall across the political spectrum can affect your personality.
What’s your poison?

  • Know Nothing Party
  • Dictatorship
  • Green Party
  • Socialist
  • Democratic Socialist
  • None
  • Constitutionalist
  • Libertarian
  • Anarchist
  • Republican
  • Democratic
  • Conservative
  • Progressive
  • Liberal
  • Monarchy
  • Natural Law
  • Communist
  • Totalitarian
  • Other Ist, Ism or Ology

Communication style

Anyone who has been misunderstood via e-mail knows the communication style can affect personality, both on the sending and receiving ends. And the reason why imodies 🙂 🙁 😉 were invented.Communication may take many forms:

  • Body language
  • Video/Zoom
  • Post Card
  • Internet
  • Note
  • Letter
  • Fax
  • Live in person
  • Pre-recorded
  • E-Mail
  • Third Party
  • Mandate
  • Message
  • Conference
  • Hand Signals
  • Smoke Signals
  • SOS
  • Text
  • Language Barrier
  • Flag signals
  • Telephone
  • Eye Contact

Every communication form comes along with its own baggage of rules and elements.

Physical Condition, Self Environment

If you’ve ever had a really bad day followed by day of apologies for the previous bad day, you know how physical condition of the self within your environment can affect personalities.
Imagine what would be your reactions be to these in conditions of:

  • Need
  • Control
  • Regret
  • Automation
  • Creativity
  • Altruism
  • Conflict
  • Illness
  • Fear
  • Poverty
  • Failure
  • War
  • Duller than dirt
  • Wealth
  • Injury
  • Pain
  • Inadequate Sleep

Combined, these qualities, connections, experiences create a unique combination called a person or personality…aka you.

Membership of Skillbuilders club

  • Vadivu – Tamilnadu , Southern part of India
  • Jay – Fair Oaks Ca
  • Tara – Sacramento Gold River
  • Katherine – Alberta Canada
  • Athena – Fremont Ca
  • Daria – San Fernando Ca all over state
  • Diana – South Dakota
  • Pat – Des Moines , Fresno CA
  • Jay – Fair Oaks
  • Wale – Nigeria
  • Susan – Little Rock Ak, San Fernando Valley CA, Worland, WY -a Southern, Rocky Mountain, Valley Girl
  • Others?_________________

Personality May Depend Upon Level of Control

There is no logical rhyme or reason why people from such diverse backgrounds would join in common interest specifically with Skillbuilders. No one could have predicted this happenstance.
Why did our little universes collide. What’s the shared attraction?
A selfish desire to:

  • Improve Self
  • Control Fear
  • Have Fun
  • Gain Confidence
  • Public Speaking
  • Enhance Leadership Skills
  • Gain Self Esteem

Which means Toastmasters are a shallow bunch of self-absorbed neurotics.
Anyone else? Raise your hand.
It’s a fact. Self improvement is selfish, so What Kryptonite cluster of Toastmaster synapses is strong enough to compel perfectly normal yet contrary, argumentative clusters of “I beg to differ” synapses to take a rest for at least an hour and a half.
Somewhere the selfish desire for self improvement “What can Toastmasters Do For Me?” transforms into a selfless “What can I do for Toastmasters, and what can I do for the world, god, company, boss, others.”
It’s also the point when the character personality relies most on childhood training.

Share Your Toys, Always Help Others, Don’t bite your sister

How Will Your Character Handle Success?

Next chapter: Define What to Change

Prepare your environment. Change requires control of emotional impulses.

Heads Up

Challenges to change are monumental.

Internet, Media, marketing, politics, non-profits, advertising, tv, Internet, radio, billboards, psychology, political science, think tanks and many more ALL study personality traits in order to target and exploit all weaknesses.

It’s time to study ourselves to recognize when we are targeted and how to resist.

The first advertising Synergistic Marketing Mind map designed by Walt Disney to build up anticipation for Disney products before the park was built. Online advertising exploded in growth around the end of 1999.

Every company owned by Disney

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